Opposites Attract

We’ve all heard the phrase “opposites attract”. Most likely you’ve heard it while discussing relationships with friends, and you’ve probably even used it to justify dating the boy that you know is no good for you. While I am not a firm believer in this saying, I am also not totally opposed to it. I am constantly attracted to quite the opposite of me… grungy street art. From graffiti to broken windows to torn down posters, I love it all.

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I can’t explain just why I am attracted to these kinds of scenes, but I am. Maybe it’s the bright colors and outrageousness of it all? Or maybe I like how it defines a city in its own unique way? Grungy street art is so different from my own personal style which is sophisticated and put-together. I typically go for clean lines and silhouettes when dressing myself but thrive on the disorder of graffiti.

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When dealing with a creative viewpoint it is safe to say that opposites absolutely do attract. As someone who appreciates art and self-expression, I can say that I enjoy art that is the opposite of me because it pushes me to think of wild ideas that I never would have thought by looking at art that feels familiar. It lets me escape myself for a bit and takes me somewhere new.

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I can’t help but wonder the story behind graffiti and other forms of street art. What kinds of people are the ones spraying this graffiti? Or hanging up these posters? Are they doing it in the middle of the night to avoid getting caught? Or in the busy daylight so people can appreciate all of the work that goes into it? Did the artists think long and hard about the mark they are making on the city? Or maybe they decided to be impulsive and take a creative risk?

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We are all attracted to the mysteries behind the person with the opposite personality from ours, or the creative expression that is the opposite of our own. Who doesn’t love solving a good mystery? It allows you to think outside the box and expand the comfort zone of your own mind. You think in ways you’ve never thought before, just trying to understand that person or work of art.

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Similarly to dating the bad boy, you experience a thrill that you’ve never experienced before; just because it feels so new and different! You may not keep him around for awhile or bring him back home to mom and dad, just like you aren’t hunting down a local graffiti artist to spray paint your apartment with bright colors, but you are experiencing life through a different lens.

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This blouse is my “George Washington” blouse, as my cousin likes to call it. It is sheer and airy, making it quite the romantic top, opposite from the grungy backdrop. Adding a leather belt and structured bag polishes off the sophisticated-casual look. To add some color I matched my lipstick with my burgundy shoes. As much as I love to wear neutrals, I clearly can’t stray away from color completely.

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So, after all, I guess I actually am a believer that “opposites attract”. However, they attract in ways that depend on the timing and setting. Opposites don’t always stick in our most comfortable environments or long-term life plans, but they are there for us to appreciate and enjoy for a brief time.

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Bag: Mango (similar)        Shoes: Splendid        Blouse: Nasty Gal        Jeans: Topshop

Lipstick: Nars                Earrings: Forever21 (similar)              Belt: Calvin Klein (similar)

What opposite are you attracted to? Leave me a comment down below! If you enjoyed this post be sure to check out The Rise of Jersey City Street Art, Independence//Dependence, and Shoreditch Street Style.

Photography by Christopher Chase

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First Reads of 2018

How many of you set a New Year’s resolution to read more? In my opinion, this is one of the best resolutions you can make. Reading can be educational, teaching you new things every time you pick up a book, or it can be an escape from the stress of everyday life.

If you’ve been reading my blog for awhile then you may remember that I set a goal in 2017 to read a new book each week. While this may have only lasted a few months, I became more aware of how I was spending my free time. I realized that I could be putting the time I spend on my phone or watching Netflix to much better use. That being said, I modified my resolution for 2018 to be to read before bed every night instead of falling sleep to Netflix or Youtube. Not only will this help me better allocate my time to read, but it will improve my quality of sleep. I am excited to see where this resolution takes me.

Here is what I read during the first month of the year:

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The Psychopath Test by Jon Ronson-

I am a sucker for a good read on psychopaths. That definitely sounds like something I shouldn’t admit to, but it is strangely fascinating. In this book, Ronson walks through a particular mystery that is brought to him by a professor in London. In the process of uncovering this mystery he becomes fixated on the idea of “madness”. He educates the reader on different studies conducted, people he meets, and psychologists that have studied this phenomenon. Overall, I enjoyed the way Ronson weaved a personal story into the educational material on the topic.

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Z: A Novel of Zelda Fitzgerald by Therese Anne Fowler-

I could not put this book down. Seriously. If you love F. Scott Fitzgerald’s novels and his romantic word choice, you will equally love this novel. It tells the story of Zelda Fitzgerald’s life with Scott and how it slowly fell apart. Fowler does an ingenious job at intertwining fact with fiction, basing her story off of actual recorded events in the couple’s life. I particularly enjoyed learning about society’s expectations of housewives during this time period.

Lillian Boxfish Takes a Walk by Kathleen Rooney-

I saw this book listed on Daunt Books’ website and was instantly attracted to the black and gold cover. I knew I needed to read it. If you are just as obsessed with New York City as I am, then this is a must-read. Told from the perspective of Lillian Boxfish, she walks the reader through her life in the city and the rich memories she has made there. She recounts how the city has changed during the 60 years that she has lived there.  While telling about the city and its wonderful charm, the novel also discusses the challenges faced by Boxfish as a successful working woman during the 1940s.

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Incognito by David Eagleman-

If you enjoy Malcolm Gladwell or Daniel Kahneman books, then you should add this to your reading list. “Incognito” looks at the unconscious aspects of the brain and how it controls decisions we make and actions we take. It really makes you question why you do the things you do. Eagleman describes different conditions caused by damage to these areas of the brain and how those who have them are completely unaware of them.

Leave a comment below telling me what you are currently reading. I would love to hear! Also, follow me on Instagram to see what I am reading right now.

Not Your Average Housewife

While I am definitely not a housewife (or anywhere close), I couldn’t help but feel like I was playing the role of a fabulously-dressed, nontraditional housewife as I pushed my grocery cart through aisles filled with potato chips and tomato sauce.

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This idea that women are the ones who do the grocery shopping for the family is still pretty prominent, but us millennial women are reshaping this role every day. We are quickly moving from the ones who bring home the groceries to the ones who bring home the dough. Thank god I’m not bringing groceries home anytime soon or my imaginary children would be eating a diet of purely potato chips.

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It ended up being quite ironic that I chose to wear this home-sewn jumpsuit for this photo shoot. Sewing used to be just another chore listed on the “to-do” list of a stereotypical housewife. However, it has now shaped itself into a hobby rather than a chore; a hobby many women unfortunately do not have the skill or desire necessary to learn.

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I have been sewing since I was 8 years old. The moment I picked up a sewing needle I knew it was something I would be hooked on for life. There is something so magical about being able to construct your own clothing and see your own designs come to life. In our modern age, those who know how to sew (like me) are those who are extremely passionate about art and design. It is something that is no longer viewed as a common skill but rather as a talent and an art. Just look at our society’s fascination with the television show “Project Runway”!

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This jumpsuit has quickly become one of my favorite things I have sewn because of its vintage vibes and perfectly tailored fit. I was able to find this ’70s-inspired plaid fabric at my local Jo-Ann Fabric store and the hardware at M&J Trimming in New York City. I modified McCall’s Pattern #7626 to include the buckle and grommet detailing.

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Don’t let gender stereotypes keep you from pursuing a hobby that you love. This is the age of change and breaking out of the gender roles that society assigned to us centuries ago. If you want to grocery shop in the most fabulous jumpsuit you own, who’s stopping you? If you are a man and want to learn to make your own suit jackets, who’s stopping you?

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The only answer to those questions is yourself. We are the only ones that limit ourselves to the roles society wants us to mold into. We are society and we determine the shape of these gender molds. Reshape your own mold. Get out there and break those gender roles.

Lipstick: Nars Pure Matte                                                     Earrings (similar): Forever 21

Jumpsuit: Madison Mae Designs

Similar Jumpsuits: Forever 21, Honey Punch, Banana Republic