How to Implement Stoicism Into Your Daily Routine

You may have heard the term of stoicism thrown around a lot lately, but what exactly is it and what does it mean?

Stoicism is an agent philosophy practiced by the wisest Greek philosophers and most powerful Roman emperors that says virtue is based on wisdom and logic.

Many of the greatest leaders in history sought out stoicism. Some of these include Julius Ceasar, George Washington, Theordore Roosevelt, and Tim Ferriss.

What exactly does it mean to practice stoicism? What do those that practice it believe? This quote from Nassim Taleb, author of The Black Swan, encompasses it perfectly.

“A Stoic is someone who transforms fear into prudence, pain into transformation, mistakes into initiation, and desire into undertaking.”

- Nassim Taleb

Stoics don’t let their emotions get the best of them but use reason and wisdom to seek true happiness and comfort. You could think of stoicism as the practice of getting to the most blissful, unreactive state of being. You don’t let your emotions get the best of you. You don’t let material objects control your purpose.

If stoicism is a practice you’re interested in following, I highly recommend starting with these two resources created by Ryan Holiday of The Daily Stoic.

  1. The Daily Stoic Podcast

    I personally love this podcast because of how short yet powerful it is. Holiday releases a new episode each morning, each less than five minutes long. In the episode he discusses a Stoic principle, usually relating it to something currently happening in the world, making it really easy to apply to modern life. I enjoy listening to this each morning while on a walk or doing my gua sha routine. It is my peace and quiet that acts as a morning mediation to get my day off to the right start.

  2. The Daily Stoic book

    If you are more of a book or journal person, this book of his is also a great option. Each page is for a different day of the year and includes a quote by a famous practitioner of Stoicism, as well as an interpretation. It is a great option to incorporate into your daily journalling routine.

It is crazy what just a few minutes of consuming the right content can do for your brain. Practicing stoicism is as easy as carving ten minutes out of your day. I guarantee you will see an immediate shift in how you solve problems, view negativity, and find joy.

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How to Thrive in Quarantine (What to Do, Play, Read, Watch, Cook)

 
What to do in quarantine

What to Do

  • Learn and film a dance on TikTok

  • Take a free course on Pluralsight

  • Paint watercolor pictures following these free videos

  • Learn to sew a face mask with this tutorial

  • Learn a new skill with 2 free months on Skillshare

  • Color butterflies and designs in this coloring book

  • Learn a new language using Duolingo

What to Play

What to Read

What to Listen To

What to Watch

  • I Am Legend (Amazon Prime)

  • Schitt’s Creek (Netflix)

  • Shark Tank (Hulu)

  • Love is Blind (Netflix)

What to Cook

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What have you been up to during quarantine? Leave a comment below!

 

Are you brave? Or are you trying to be perfect?

 

Last night I had the pleasure of listening to Reshma Saujani, Founder and CEO of Girls Who Code, talk about her latest book "Brave, Not Perfect". She wrote the book after having massive success speaking on the topic in her TED talk. Saujani crafted this talk after observing the behaviors of the girls in her program. Not one would raise their hand at the end of her lessons to ask questions. She knew that if these girls were boys, however, their hands would be shooting up into the air.

Saujani concluded that girls are raised to be perfect and make no mistakes whereas boys are raised to take risks and be brave. A lot of the things she said last night really resonated with me. Here are some key ideas:

🔑 The reason we can't say no, as women, is because we want to be liked.

🔑 You can't be brave if you're tired- so don't be scared to tell people no!

🔑 At the core we are all girls stuck in the 8th grade who still just want boys to like us. Why else would we be baking the banana bread and planning the company Christmas party?

Do you resonate with any of these points she made? I know I do. Even though I am confident in myself and push outside of my comfort zone I still get scared to ask a question in fear of sounding dumb. I still get scared to input my opinion in a group of older males. This irrational fear  is something I work on fighting against everyday at work.

Brave Not Perfect book

I have yet to read the book but will be sure to report back on what I think of it. Overall I love the message and believe it has a lot of great ideas for women to think about.

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Finance Books Every 20-Something Must Read

 

Finance. It’s a topic many young women do not like to discuss. It either makes them uncomfortable or they just simply aren’t educated enough to converse about it. However, it is something so important to our success and well-being in life. It is a topic we all need to start talking about. In “Rich Dad, Poor Dad” Kiyosaki mentions that poor people are still poor because they refuse to talk about money. Talking about money opens us up to new ideas on how to make, manage, and grow wealth.

I have recently become fascinated by personal finance because of my friend Miki. She has opened me up to so many new ideas and books on the topic. It is so important to have friends who are open about these kinds of things and eager to share all of their knowledge. These are the kinds of friends that will help you grow and prosper. But more on this topic in another post.

I have 4 personal finance books for you that each serve a different purpose but are all so eye-opening and educational. Once you read them you will not be able to stop. Each book opens up a realm of new thoughts and ideas that will help change your outlook on money.

1. A book to change your money mindset

 
You Are a Badass at Making Money

You are a Badass at Making Money by Jen Sincero

This book is for anyone who views money as dirty or thinks they are undeserving of it. It is for those who grew up with a poor understanding of all the things money can do for us. If you think being rich is a bad thing and makes you an evil person, read this book. It will quickly change your negative thoughts about money into positive ones. Each chapter asks you different questions and fits your answers into a mantra that you can repeat to yourself every day. If you have a negative view about money then you will never be able to prosper financially. Before educating yourself on making your situation better, you have to change how you view your situation.

2. A book to change your viewpoint on wealth and how to grow it 

Rich Dad Poor Dad

Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert T. Kiyosaki

Are you a firm believer that working hard will make you money? Do you think moving up the corporate ladder is the key to your success? This book will explain to you exactly why this is the wrong way to think. If you want to build wealth you need to escape from what Kiyosaki calls the "rat race". He discusses the difference between assets and liabilities and how you need to ensure that your assets are being invested in order to pay for your liabilities. Kiyosaki gave me a whole new thinking process of where my income should be going, opening my mind to the idea of real estate and stock investments. I even enrolled myself in a real estate investment course on Udemy!

3. A book to introduce you to finance for women and why it's important

The Financial Diet

Money by Chelsea Fagan

This book is perfect for women that love cute graphics and want to make finance fun. It gives you a basic overview on the different aspects of your finances that you should reconsider and review in order to improve your financial situation. It doesn't use big words or fancy terms that you won't understand. The book even interviews successful females about how changing their finances have helped them succeed or how they reshaped the way they viewed money. I loved it because it was an easy read with beautiful pictures that made everything simple to understand.

4. A book that gives you actionable steps to improve your financial situation

I WIll Teach You To Be Rich

I Will Teach You to Be Rich by Ramit Sethi

Last, but certainly not least, is the book that is the most actionable and will lead to the biggest change in your financial well-being. If you were to only read one book off this list, this would be the one. Each chapter discusses a different topic and represents a different week in a 6-week plan to improve your financial situation. Sethi makes it easy for everyone to put what they read into action by assigning a chapter a week and ending it with actual steps you can complete. If you listen to everything he tells you to do, you will be in the best financial shape of your life. The topics range from student loans to credit cards to IRAs to budgeting.

Don't just read this blog post and think about all the ways you could use these books to improve your finances. Click one of the links and purchase AT LEAST one of these on Amazon. It only takes one click!

These books will truly help set you in the right direction for your future. If you care about affording that house 5 years down the line, sending your kids to college, or (if you're like me) buying that Chanel handbag you've always lusted over, then read these books. The younger you are the easier it is to set yourself up for a successful financial future. Why wait 10 years from now and stress yourself out trying to fix all of the mistakes you made in your 20s when it could all be smooth sailing from here?

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5 Things “Switch” Taught Me About Setting New Year’s Resolutions

 

I recently read a book called “Switch- How to change things when change is hard” by Chip & Dan Heath. The book discusses various businesses cases and change situations, drawing out the important steps that were taken to make that change successful. While reading this it really had me thinking a lot about my New Year’s Resolutions and how to actually turn them into habits.

Every year myself and many others set new goals, hoping to adapt habits that we haven’t been the best at achieving in the past. What can we do to finally make these new habits stick? Reading this book gave me a lot of insight on to why certain change efforts do not work and how I can finally make them work.

This New Year I am making it my goal to become a morning person. Maybe not enjoy the mornings so much, but to not dread them. I want to workout in the mornings before work and set a solid routine so that I can set myself up for the best day ahead. I’ve tried to make this happen for the last few months now but it just hasn’t happened. I feel like I’ve tried everything- from making my boyfriend call to wake me up to motivating myself with a good cup of coffee. Unfortunately, nothing has worked. I am going to adapt the things I’ve learned in “Switch” to create a successful habit and I hope you will to.

What I’ve Learned:

1. Find a way to achieve your habit in a way that influences not just your thoughts, but your emotions.

Throughout the book the authors discuss the concepts of "the elephant" and "the rider", or our emotions and our rationality. The rider can rationalize all he or she wants but will not be able to move the elephant if he or she doesn’t really want to. It’s important for us to follow the pattern SEE-FEEL-CHANGE if we want to be successful. So before trying to change a habit, make sure you really understand WHY you want to change what you are currently doing. What is this helping you achieve? How will this impact you?

For me, I think about all the free time I lose after work from having to head to the gym, complete my workout, and shower. I feel unproductive and like I have no time for myself after a long, hard day of work. I’m appealing to this feeling of unfulfillment and lack by changing the time I wake up in the morning.

2. Shrink the change.

According to Chip and Dan, “People find it more motivating to be partly finished with a longer journey than to be at the starting gate of a shorter one” (127). By taking small baby steps to making a change and succeeding at these steps, we are growing confidence in ourselves and proving to ourselves that we really can make this change. The authors call this a “miracle scale”; we are focusing our attention on small, attainable milestones rather than the far final destination.

I plan to start small by waking up 5 minutes earlier one week, then 10 minutes earlier, then 15 minutes, and so on. If I can wake up a little bit earlier each week then I will gain confidence that I can achieve the end goal and this end goal won’t seem as drastic. After I achieve the habit of waking up early, I will add small workouts into my routine. I will start with a 5 minute workout one week, then a 10 minute one, and so on. After all, big changes come from many small changes.

3. Tweak your environment to make change easier.

Changing different parts of your environment can help make your change efforts a lot easier. We often get stuck in certain routines or ways of doing things because we associate them with specific environments. Make it a little easier to create a habit by setting yourself up for success. Change your environment in small ways in order to make this new habit easier to adapt.

I will be laying out my gym clothes every night before bed in order to make getting up and working out in the morning a little bit easier. Or maybe for you changing your environment means joining a gym that’s only a short walk away rather than a 15 minute drive. If you make your goal to eat 20% less sugar in a day than you normally do, don’t keep high sugar foods in the house. Think about all the way you can change your surroundings to make change a little bit easier.

4. Create action triggers and checklists.

Action triggers motivate us to do the things we know we need to do. They help us determine when to act on what we want to change. They help us do things that we may be putting off or avoiding. For example, if you make an action trigger to go to the gym right after you get out of work, you’re not leaving any room for you to NOT go to the gym since you leave work everyday (or let’s hope). I’m going to make it my goal to workout right when I wake up since I wake up everyday. I will know waking up means it’s time to go workout.

In addition to action triggers it is important to create checklists. According to Chip and Dan, “Checklists educate people about what’s best, showing them the ironclad right way to do something... Checklists can help people avoid blind spots in a complex environment” (221). By creating a checklist of everything you need to do to accomplish your goal, you are getting rid of any possibility of forgetting what you have to do to make that goal successful. It could be as simple as writing a list telling yourself to set up your clothes for the morning, fill your water bottle with cold water, and preparing a post-workout smoothie. Checking things off your list will also be like small little accomplishments!

5. Make your goals clear, precise, and specific.

The more ambiguous our goals are, the more room there is for us to stray from our original goal. If we don’t include ways to measure our goals, we often don’t end up achieving what we originally intended. An example they used in the book was a goal many people set for the new year; “I want to eat healthy and workout more”. While this is great, it includes nothing you can measure. While you may start out strong, it will get to the point when you begin to justify eating ice cream because you ate broccoli earlier in the week. Or you eat McDonald’s for dinner because you ate a salad for lunch. You are justifying your decisions because they technically are “healthier” than what you were doing before, even though they aren’t actually healthy decisions. I encourage you to make goals like “Eat lunches and dinners consisting of 30% veggies, 50% protein, and 20% grains” or “Walk at least 30 minutes each day”. These are goals that you can confidently say you accomplished or not, without room for ambiguity.

I highly encourage everyone to read “Switch” by Chip and Dan Heath. It is a book that gives great insight in making change on a personal, organizational, or world-wide level. It is not only extremely inspiring to hear so many stories of successful change, but it is extremely educational in a practical way. Let me know what your New Year’s Resolutions are in the comments below. Follow me on Instagram to see everything I’m up to on my holiday break!

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